How we connect is not always how we think we should connect. There is not always one way that we can connect, but for sure however we connect we need to be kind and generous , caring and real.
Finding ways to connect face to face in a positive way is a great place to start. Learn to listen, observe , engage , in as many ways that you can. Connecting with others takes time , be patient and recognize that just because you don’t necessarily connect with one person that does not mean you cannot connect with another person in a more meaningful way.
- Be yourself
Recognize that those who you will become lifelong friends or partners with will accept you for who you are .
- Face your fears
Find ways to let go of your fears and start a conversation, ask questions or find what you have in common . You may do this both F2F and online.
- Look beyond what you see
We are complex beings and if you give others a real chance to get to know them then you may find that they are so much more than what you first see.
- Open your heart
Yes, you might get hurt, but when you open yourself to new friendships or relationships your world can open like never before and you are never the same.
- All relationships are about give and take
Sometimes you will give more than your friend or partner does , but that is ok . At some point in your relationship they may give more. It’s all about the give and the take.
- Connecting today may take many forms
Not all connecting online is a bad thing. Connect in the right ways with the right people and you may discover you develop friendships and relationships that are rich and rewarding and could last a lifetime.
- Trust your instincts
If you see red flags online or off trust those gut feelings and take action . Not all connections are healthy. Do you respect the other person ? Do they respect you? Do you know what a healthy relationship looks like ? Learn more here.
- Work on yourself
Be the kind of person that you want a friend or partner to be. Being a good human being is a lifelong endeavour. Always reflect on who you are and who you want to be.
Finding and maintaining healthy relationships is often the key to much happiness in life. Connecting online or off in a healthy way can improve your life. Connecting in a negative way can ruin your life. Look forward to the many ways that you can positively connect with others throughout life knowing that true connections can lift you up making you a better and happier person. How we connect with others truly matters .
Counsellor Talk : Creative Collaborative Connections 